It’s ……… March 8! We’ve taken a break from the blog because our website was being RE-DONE! Do you like it? we sure do! As a gift to you beautiful women we are giving several free women’s programs up for downloads…. FOR FREE! Under Products- Women’s Programs (E-books) below is a rant of mine on women’s rights, read it or don’t but YAY FREE STUFF right?! I have dedicated my entire life past, present and future to uplifting other women and helping all women lead healthy lives. I am very thankful that I have a partner who has dedicated his life to doing the same thing but with both men and women. Today is International women’s day which is a big deal to me in many ways, and for many reasons. I was lucky enough to grow up in a family and a country that the equality among men and women is PRETTY GOOD. It’s not perfect, but it’s pretty good. I am a feminist and I always have been a feminist and I find it really sad that the word has been tainted. Feminist means that you believe in equality among the sexes. That is all it means, it doesn’t mean that you think you are better than a man and it doesn’t mean that women are The superior gender all it means to me is that I should have all of the same opportunities that a man has. I should feel like I can accomplish anything I want to in this lifetime and the fact that I have boobs and a vagina shouldn’t have any effect on that. I don’t know if it’s because my mom was and is such a powerhouse of a superwoman but she worked three jobs and had four kids and a husband who worked out of town. She handled us on her own basically. And I never felt like one sex over the other was superior. I have two brothers and one sister and all four of us are doing such awesome and very different things. I love the fact that I am a woman! The one thing that I have a little bit of a different view on is the definition of equality. See the thing is I think that yes we women should have all of the same rights as men and we should be paid the same and we should have the same opportunities. It’s sad that we don’t, and super sad the difference between some countries and how women are viewed especially in under-developed countries. Although yes we do deserve all of those things and we are as a population working towards that I hope, the one thing that I have always embraced is that we aren’t the same as men. Women and men are different. Women and men are (on average) not the same!! In Canada we see DIVERSITY as strength. It is what unites us and on this topic I really feel that what makes me different as a woman is my strength. I am strong, I am smart, I am fearless, but I am also sensitive and I am also emotional and I am also maternal. And I don’t think any of those things are debilitating. I think those are my strengths. The same way in which we shouldn’t judge a person by the colour of their skin and the same way in that we shouldn’t not allow someone a job because of their ethnicity I feel that is what women’s rights is all about. I should feel like I can have any job I want and if I want to be a CEO of a company I can and I should be able to. But if I want to be a stay at home mom and wife and mother I should be allowed to do that to you without any discrimination or anyone turning up the nose to me. That is what feminism is. Just because I am a woman that I can’t do the job and although in a lot of situations sometimes a man is better suited for the job and sometimes a woman is better suited for the job but the point is that I should still be able to try and I should still be able to prove myself because sometimes a woman can do the job better than a man you just have to let them try.
Today is my Daniel’s Birthday! Today is the day you were brought into this world. This is not only a special day for you but it’s a very special day to everyone close to you. Although you were born two years after me I still think our souls are related in some way. The people closest to me usually tend to be Pisces which is weird because that is the total polar opposite of me, but I guess that does make sense. I am a bit of an oxymoron in that I’m intensely loving and apathetic at the same time. I try not to be emotional and I come off as a bit standoffish but I really am the biggest softy you will ever meet, expressing my feelings and softness is hard for me. I want to tell you a little bit about the Daniel that very few people know about, and I can’t do that unless I come from a soft place hence the introduction and warning about all of the feels 😂😏 I have only known you for three years but it feels like I have known you for thousands. From what I have heard of his childhood, Daniel has always worn his heart on his sleeve and has been a sensitive and very emotionally intelligent human being, and ambitious. And smart. He was bullied when he was younger and had a tough time like most kids. He, by the age of 24, had accomplished more than a lot of people accomplish in their lifetime. Which I talk about below. And the best thing about him is that he is so humble that a lot of people don’t even know what he has done including myself for a very long time because he just sees himself as another person. Daniel was a swimmer and swam with all of the great names that are in the Olympics now, and used to literally swim faster than them. But when he decided that he was over it, he was over it and he decided to dominate something else. He swam for SA at 3 FINA world cups, 07 Olympic trials, and won 5 gold medals and 1 silver, at the South African games. To name a few. Daniel then decided he was going to be a singer, and because he is good at everything he obviously just went and won everything. He was on TV, he was on SA idols and he was on high school musical touring SA and making all the young 14 year old girls fall in love with him. THEN, deciding that, hey you know what, maybe I want to be a bodybuilder. I mean how hard could that be right? Yeah. Within a few short years he had won his pro card, placed 4th IN THE WORLD at worlds (did you know that he is STILL to this day the HIGHEST ranking fitness model in the country….???? He got fourth place to the three world champions.) I know that he isn’t finished. And I know he will continue to do great things in the fitness industry. The last two years were obviously the two years that we have been together and the fact that Daniel made me a priority and our marriage and beginning our life together a priority above all of these things is just a testament to the kind of man he is. He has dozens of clients that he sees every day, he’s shaped hundreds of lives and he continues to inspire and encourage everyone he comes in contact with. We’ve been very lucky with the sponsorships and support we’re receiving this year so watch this space guys, daniel is definitely going to be doing some amazing things soon. Stay TUNED 🙌 He is the best son and brother (most of the time) and uncle, he is the best friend a person could ask for, and he is the best MAN and husband to me. Daniel is the type of guy who is always in a good mood. At 4 am. Annoyingly. And he’s good looking too so it’s like, not fair you know? He should suck at something or at least be mean. But nope. The only thing he sucks at is multi tasking. (Sorry babe). The accolades and accomplishments I outlined here are just his ON Paper accomplishments. You guys don’t see what he does every day for his loved ones, how he puts his heart and soul into every one of his clients, how he spends every morning cuddling me even though I’m dead to the world until 10 am, spends every evening talking about how much he loves his family and friends. He does NOTHING half assed, and that’s why the last two years have been dedicated to growing himself as a person, getting engaged, married, moving 3 times, starting a hard on your feet 10 hour a day job, all the while being the best husband, coach and friend on the planet. Daniel you are the best person I know and I’m honoured you chose me. I will do everything in my power every day to show you how much you mean to me. I hope you have the best day, and birthday month…. but please let’s just relax this weekend I’m still tired from last weekend 😂😂😭😭 I love you. Happy birthday! You’re 27 today! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
This testimonial is so eloquently written, so heartfelt and inspiring, that I sincerely hope you take the time to read it! Without further ado …. my dear friend Miss Amy. “So , I’m not entirely sure how to write this , and to be dead honest I’m nervous with each letter I begin typing. But regardless of general self-conscious hoopla I feel honoured to be able to be writing on my journey. Ironically, I had a lovely conversation with an inspiring women last night who told me that when I feel I’m failing my goals , I need to remember im able to do it because ive got the opportuntiy – something I feel is a true statement with Drea, but I’ll get to that. So I’m going to tell you My story and hopefully it motivates you by knowing you’re not alone in this. * SPOILER ALERT * I’m not a fitness model or model or athlete. I’m an ambiverted, neurotic, big hearted, hard working average Joe or Jane or whatever. I’m also nowhere near my goal , but I’ve made massive strives towards it , and those strives only truly were significant when my journey started with Drea. When I met Drea I was weighing a lovely 110 kgs. But there was a before at 120 and my heaviest at 130 4 years back. What I can tell you is its been no easy ride and unfortunately I’m not a rugby player . I’ve spent my last 7 years completing 4 degrees ,and am currently an emerging industrial Psychologist finishing my masters year . So I’ve basically been a broke student whose primary goal was defeating the naysayers who said I wouldn’t even finish high school and don’t have the aptitude to go far …….lol. But with that came major sacrifices. Not just socially as you develop but also physically . I didn’t even realize I’d hit 135kgs at a busting age of 21. Being big your whole life you begin blocking off comments ,epecially when your focus is elsewhere . But at that stage while I often gave up easily with diets , I was incredibly self conscious. I had a few horrid comments made and after the 100th crash diet I gave 101 a shot . Lost 40 in 4 months. I was starved, saggy , and sad. The problem with crash diets like that is you will loose, for now. Then you gain it back , and you also gain an intolerance to foods , as well as you begin yoyoing like nuts . It messes with your mental state and I ended up gaining it all back. My attitude towards myself and food was dismal . But I kept trying and kept failing miserably. After being in a not so great situation once I moved to Durban I didn’t understand why I wasn’t losing . I was doing every trick , maybe I was cursed or something ? After my year here I was massive , well massively broken . I felt my outside and who I was wasn’t the same and whilst I prided myself on my confidence and boasted that being bigger was OK, I was accidentally flawed in my own opinion . Although being you, in any shape and form is of utmost importance it should never be used as an excuse to hold yourself back from your full potential. That’s what I began realizing – I wasn’t a ‘whole self ‘. I wasnt comfortable being me , and who I was was controted through assumptions of my size . A few months before I met Drea I realised that , and I realised I was 24 and I couldn’t walk up to the gate of my flat without being out of breath. I was missing a chunk of life and I lost my vibrance . But I was also petrified. I realised nutrition was one aspect , but I needed to do exercise. I realised crash dieting didn’t work and decided to gift myself by doing it right . But here’s the thing , and a note to those people who think their opinions about others matter- all the words add up , you’re not the only person who has said something and you’re damaging someone’s integrity . What comments you may ponder? Those self professing nonsense comments you say all the time . By the way , here’s a few :
- – You’ll never become a good psychologist because you don’t look like you have a balanced life
- – You’ll always have relationship issues because you’ll be too self conscious
- – You’re OK looking but you’d be beautiful if you were skinny
- – You’re a great person but I don’t want to date you because you’re fat
- – OMG, Amy is huge she can’t sit there she’ll break that chair
- – Don’t worry about wearing your gym clothes to class because then others will know you were there at least
- – Look at the way she wiggles , how embarrassing
- – OMG she’s a hippo, I mean she’s got a nice face but pity about the rest
- – I don’t remember you , OH wait you’re FAT AMY
- – No way SHE could achieve THAT she’s just a fat girl
- – Check the handbag
- – Amy you’re not comforting without being big
- – You don’t mean much because you’re big
- – Don’t do /say/eat/wear that
- – check fatty eat
- – etc.etc.
I am not nor have ever been interested in money or fame. I’ve always been interested in helping others, and going on adventures. You know you’re living your dream job if you could do it all for free, you would.
I have always been (almost) 100% clear on my Vision… My goals have always been clear. And, I’ve surrounded myself with people who remind of my capabilities when I feel low.
I’ve had a lot of less than perfect things happen and obstacles come in my way but my life is a direct result of the decisions I have made… and how I handled the ninja stars thrown at me. I’m not LUCKY. I’m not. I work really, really hard. Not everyone would like the life I have, to always be on your phone and giving yourself and your time to others, always traveling, I can imagine some people would hate that.
I do what I do because I love it. Anyone who knows me can testify to this. The over 100 testimonials I have prove this.
The point? You should too. You should love your job so much that you would do it for free. If I told you that in 5 years from now you will be doing the exact same thing you’re doing right now… Would you be happy? If the answer is no, you should start making changes! One decision and one change at a time.
One life ✌️
SOOOO You wanna date a fitness model, huh? When it comes to dating a fitness athlete, I don’t think that people know what they are getting into.
Granted, relationships are hard no matter WHAT industry you’re in, I know this, but THIS issue is close to my heart because well…. I’m in it.
I am one, and dating one.
I think that because the nature of the industry is to make yourself look as glamorous and healthy as possible at all times, and to basically sell yourself from a very superficial stand point, and attempt to make yourself look as famous/lean/perfect and almost completely photo shopped at all times, it’s quite deceiving. It seems like such a glamorous thing and it seems super cool, I understand that, but like most things in life there’s a dark side. Much like every other sport, take ballet for example… You do not see the dark side because we never talk about it. You don’t see the bandaged ballet feet and fractures, dedicating years to perfecting skills, dieting to be thin, stuff like that. You will never understand unless you’re in it and I think this applies to many other things. Dating any elite athlete from any sport or sporting background requires an understanding that YOU, the partner, will not always be first priority.
You might not even be second or fifth in line of importance. Some days you might not even go through their mind more than twice. They might only have 1-2 hours a week for you, they might even need to take several weeks to focus on something. You need to be OK with that. Dating anyone who is passionate or invested in ANY sport or even schooling, achieving a dream, or growing a business, it takes fully understanding that THEIR world does not revolve around you. I would say that someone in the peak of their career or studying to the extent that I’m describing, that maybe you shouldn’t BE in a relationship, but I can’t say that because I DID do that. I have had boyfriends even throughout some of the busiest times of my life. I think if you can establish ahead of time that you ARE going to be busy and lay out your terms in advance, then I think it’s a little easier for your partner to decide if they want to be involved in that kind of lifestyle or not. But the problem is that in the beginning of relationships, especially if you don’t know yourself that well, you think you are OK with being second, or third, on someone’s list… but then it gets harder, and you change your mind. And of course, people do change once you get to know them too. There’s a lot of factors obviously that coming to play for situations like these but I think it’s super important that if you are looking to date someone that is very busy and focussing on something almost 100% of the time, then you need to think about what that’s going to be like. So that’s why I am writing this.
In bodybuilding there are so many things that need to be done leading up to a competition that consume so much time, and they all are imperative. Every meal counts. Every cardio session counts, and every MINUTE of cardio counts. Every weights session counts, and if my performance or my diet or my workouts are negatively impacted by my partner, it won’t work. Yes, once in a while, but if it becomes a constant thing, it won’t work. Meal timing, meal preparation and cardio, weights and then for women we have to prepare for photo shoots, outfits, bikinis, shoes, we have to organize hair and make up and nails and tanning. Possibly bed tanning, some people even get their teeth whitened, botox, laser, physiotherapy, sports massages, blood tests, meal prepping for an hour every second night, getting our eyebrows and absolutely every hair on our body completely wax off or shaved off and I think that to date someone in the industry is hard especially if you don’t understand it, or at least try to understand, it’s going to cause a lot of problems for you both. It’s like that in ANY industry and any job at an elite or demanding. There’s no way. Most people in any career or running a business etc. will dedicate 8-15 hours a day to their cause or career. Bodybuilding is EVERY moment that you are awake. It’s on your mind/a pre-requisite from the minute you wake up, to the minute you go to sleep, AND even while you sleep your body is repairing itself. It’s ALWAYS working. If you’re not eating, you’re thinking about eating. If you’re not training, you’re planning when next to train. If you’re not grocery shopping, you probably need something. If you aren’t on social media or active on social media, you should be because you need to continue to keep the hype (this is for some people, not for all, but for some athletes with contracts and stuff you need to keep your following high and post often).
Trust. It’s also very difficult dating someone with a very large following on social media because the trust just has to be there already. You need to go into the relationship with an innate trust that is just there already, if you carry baggage from previous relationships, like being cheated on or whatever it may be, and you carry those issues into your new relationship 1 )That’s not fair in ANY relationship or situation, and 2) it won’t work well, or very long, because fighting about people liking your photos is actually ridiculous and exhausting. I know because I have been there, I am crazy from time to time, but I have ALSO been on the receiving end of the accusations. Someone I don’t even know and haven’t met likes my photo and I’m getting in trouble? Hells to the no. I don’t have time for that. I mean, I do now, but during prep time, no. Building trust from day one is super important. Daniel and I actually had an advantage when we first started dating because we started with long-distance, and in order to be in a long-distance relationship, you have to kind of just have this inherent trust in someone. And I have been in very hurtful situations and betrayed by exes before, so it was very hard for me. It’s not just trust, but just knowing that no matter what happens that you will be OK regardless of what the other person does, or doesn’t do. You WILL be okay regardless, you cannot control someone else actions. Establish your ground rules, let them establish theirs, and then try to not get worked up about things that the other person cannot control. Someone else acting a certain way, for example. You cannot control how someone acts to your partner, but you can establish YOUR ground rules and where YOUR lines are in how they are to react to the other persons actions, and you need to just trust that your partner will handle them as best they can. This is important, because sometimes people will handle things different to how YOU would handle things. As long as its handled, it shouldn’t matter. So, for example, if you are the type of person that will curve ANY opposite sex person messaging you in your inbox, then thats just how you are. You cannot expect everyone to curve people in the same way as you. Just trust that your partner IS doing their best, in their own way, to let people know that they are in a committed relationship, and if they aren’t, then thats a problem.
It’s even harder if you’re dating a fitness coach who gets progress pictures daily of half naked people. I think if I wasn’t a coach myself, it would be very difficult for me to be dating someone who is. We athletes get judged mainly by our appearance. Mainly. But on the whole, it’s got all kinds of people in it. It is very hard to understand but I think that’s because there is such a diverse amount of TYPES of people in it. For example there ARE girls who are in the industry just for attention and praise, and there ARE guys in the industry who do this just so they can look good and sleep around with a bunch of girls, of course there are, but there are also people in the industry who are completely misunderstood because they are nice people. They are deep individuals who are incredibly intelligent, and there are people who work very hard and who care about the well-being of others, and people who are in the industry just to help other people get into fitness, and lead healthier lives. So it really depends on who you’re dating and the kind of person YOU are. But it really does take a special kind of person to be with someone in this industry, and if you are not in the industry and you are dating someone who is a model or in otherwise then I take my hat off to you because I can understand how difficult it is.
So you’re not dating yet, but you want to be;
A good place to start is to get to know the person. Get to really know who they are and what their values are. Get to understand how they work, their reasons for doing things, why they do what they do when they do, then make a decision from there. If you already know that you’re the type of person who needs attention, 1) why? Figure that out first. 2) decide to change OR decide to just focus on yourself while letting your partner work on him or herself, and just take things extremely show until there’s more time to work on things. 3) Decide to wait for someone that fits your needs, and your requirements.
So, what about the athlete? How does the athlete contribute to the relationship? Of course I am not just saying that the partner must understand the athlete and dote on them, no.
As the athlete, YOU should understand that you need to go out of your way to make your partner feel loved and special and important. Little things matter. It’s the little things that matter ALWAYS. Like a quick voice note or text message in the morning saying that you’re thinking about them. THIS is just as important as UNDERSTANDING the athlete, THE ATHLETE needs to go out of their way and work just as hard. It’s not 50/50 in relationships, its 100/100. BOTH of you need to be working hard, and equally as hard. Try to understand that your partner is already sacrificing a lot. They maybe help you make your meals, leave you along when you need to be left alone, they understand that you need to be on social media all the time, they understand that you need to gym every day instead of going to a movie or dinner. Try to put yourself in their shoes sometimes. Show them how much you appreciate their understanding. Be thankful when they do things for you. Do the little things that make them happy, even if it means skipping your cheat meal and moving it to the date that is your anniversary, do that. Do little things for them! Be interested in their lives also. Set reminders on your phone to remember little things, like their family members birthdays, send flowers or something every so often, do something. Because even though you’re busy, THEY need to feel special. You need to remember that THEY are used to coming second or third or 15th to chicken breasts, so a small reminder that you appreciate them will go a long long LONG way.You kind of need to reassure each other ahead of time before things start becoming a problem. So for example, Daniel and I we show each other progress pics from clients all the time. And I observed how he looked at these progress pictures and it was always from the coaches point of view. I think I speak for all PROFESSIONAL online coaches when I say that None of us look at bodies in a sexual way anymore at all. I could literally be looking at the hottest man on earth and immediately I would be looking at his body and just thinking of all the improvements he could make. I would immediately think ‘oh he’s an ectomorph, cool’ or I would be thinking ‘weird he leans/limps to the left so maybe he hurt himself or he has a weak point’ or ‘he must have an injury’ etc etc. Same with women, and I think most professional male coaches could (and probably do) receive thong or even half naked selfie’s from their clients but if you’re not in the industry you are still sensitive to nudity and things like that. Nudity doesn’t phase us. I really wish more people understood that boobs and abs and bums… all of it. Nudity really doesn’t phase some of us in this industry anymore, so there’s nothing to worry about in that department. Dan could literally receive and has received half naked photos from clients/ friends of ours being like ‘help how do I lose 5 pounds or my stomach’ and we sit there and go ‘cmmmmmmm,…… well maybe she should think about adding in some cardio or cutting down on the dairy, and no more tequila on weekends’. And then that’s it. End of discussion. No fight, no comments, because this is something we established from day one that this is going to happen in our relationship. So, its a no-fight zone.
You DONT have to pick between a career and your partner. You DONT have to sacrifice success for a family. You DONT. But you do need to UNDERSTAND the relationship you’re getting into, and you need to look at it from both angles always. Put yourself in their shoes, and ask them to put themselves in yours sometimes. Some months you will have to put somethings on hold, sometimes your partner will need to put things on hold, but it can work, and it has to be a two way street. It’s going to be HARD. For both of you. Really, it is.
Daniel and I made so many sacrifices for each other to the point that I don’t think a lot of our family members or some friends even LIKE the sacrifices we had to make, but we did it for each other and I would never ever take back the sacrifices that I made and the things that I put on hold to make my relationship work. But could I maybe be in a different place in the industry or even in my life? Probably. But I made that judgement call, and I have no regrets.
Relationships are hard and I am by no means a relationship expert. All I know for certain is that I am in one and we are happy 95.3% of the time. I know that I am a fitness model and an online coach and so is my fiancé, and I know how hard we have to work at making everything work. It was so incredibly hard.
But I can tell you, it was worth it.
I’m BACK BISHES! So anyway. It’s been a few months but I have lots of content….. so get ready! Photography. If I had to guess, I would say that I have been in front of the camera thousands of times… For real. Since young I have never been shy of cameras. I have done many many photoshoots with many top photographers and I can say with certainty that it is a hard job. I really appreciate you, photographers, for your skills and your art. Photographers are misunderstood I feel, because it’s hard to see the work that goes into everything. Much like graphic designers, or even my job as an online coach, our jobs are very behind the scenes. Photographers take pictures for say one hour, but spend 10 hours on those photos editing. You dont see that. So, I can relate, when people don’t understand your profession. People cancelling, or asking for TFP -free photos- (Which is fine if you’re a beginner photographer or looking for a particular look for your portfolio and dont mind doing it, but most people who are very busy wont have the time) People don’t see the hours you spend on your computer or your phone, emailing back and forth sorting out a shoot, sorting make up artists and venues and everything. It takes ages and now with everyone acting like photographers because of cell phones and filters, it definitely has become harder I feel for photographers since it’s unappreciated a little bit. A good photographer is an artist in every sense of the word. You can’t fake creativity and you cant just “buy” or “practice getting” an eye for art or photography, you either have it or you don’t. Ten people could photograph the same model, the same flower or the same chair and it will come out ten different ways. And that alone is what really fascinates me about it all. So, after being in front of the lens for so long, I think im going to work on some things behind the lens. By no means am I saying I want to be a photographer, but I have such an appreciation for it that I want to learn more about it. A hobby, if you will. I’m excited to share more about that!
I saw this on Facebook the other day and it has been ringing in my head ever since. Nothing much else to say about it so I will just leave it here.
“I will never be a well behaved woman.
I would rather pass my days lying in the middle of dirt roads, staring at the full moon with a bottle of summer red in my palms.
I would rather have kids when it suits me, not when society expects or throws shoulds.
I would rather live in a hammock on a beach for six months, and write like my soul means it.
I would rather be horribly broke at times, than married to a job because a mortgage payment has my ass on a hook.
I would rather own moments, than investments.
I would rather eat alone, than sit with women who bore me at ‘Wives’ Night.”
I would rather swim naked with bioluminescence, have it fall like fireflies from my hair, my breasts, my back.
I would rather do handstands naked in the moonlight when no one’s watching than pick bridesmaid dresses.
I would rather drink seven year old rum from a sandy bottle, smell of smoke and ash than sit in church.
I would rather learn from life than rack up debt, in a desk.
I would rather drink the ocean, again and again—celebrate being madly alive.
I would rather my love be defined by love itself, and nothing more or less.
I don’t need a ring on my finger to prove that I am in love.
I would rather take the chicken bus, than spend useless money in safe gated communities. Sit beside a goat, listen to raggaeton and eat green mango with sugar in a plastic bag sold from the woman who harasses the bus each time it stops.
I do not need a degree to prove that I am intelligent.
I do not need to own a piece of earth with some wood on top of it—to feel successful. No one truly owns the land, anyway—we just think we do.
My savings account has diddly to do with my richness.
I would rather sprawl my single ass out like a lioness each morning and enjoy each corner of my empty bed.
I will take a job I love and freedom over a pension, any day.
I will not work and work and work to live when my body is old and I am tired.
Stocks are for people who get boners from money.
Not everyone should have kids, and my eggs aren’t expiring.
I will not drink the societal Kool-Aid on a bus, nor will I drink it on a train.
Not on a plane, with a goat, in the rain, in the dark, in a tree, with a fox, in a box!
I will not jump through societies’ hoops and red tape, the treasure hunt in the rat race we chase.
If we must have milestones—mine will be measured by how much joy I have collected at the end of each day and how often in this life I have truly, deeply, opened.
Seek, see, love, do.”
by: Janne Robinson
It seems the industry drastically changed.
I remember when I started, the women around me were incredibly kind and inspiring.
Chady Dunmore, Claire Rae, and my local friends like Tannis Miller etc, A bunch of women who spoke to me when I reached out, became friends, and they inspire me to this day. So kind, cool, so amazing. True definitions of just chill amazing people- who realized that we are just fitness people working towards the same goal- inspiring others.
When I speak to athletes now it’s all about putting down other people… How many likes or followers do you have. Sponsorships (aka product in exchange for selling your soul with provocative photos to promote their product) …
I saw a guy I met a few years ago at an expo and he was so incredibly kind that I still remember vividly, thinking how nice he was. He was in South Africa recently and I saw him.. He was so cocky,rude and pretentious. I was so disappointed. This is one example of hundreds. What the hell happened to you guys. Seriously how do even have the audacity to think what you’re doing makes you famous. Insta famous isn’t a thing. People don’t pay you, you pose for hundreds of filtered/severely edited photos and people ‘like’ them. You exercise and eat healthy. Why should I admire you when you aren’t even a nice person? Because you have a nice body and sponsors and rip off other people’s diet plans and sell them as your own? Lol. No.
There are some good fitness models out there still don’t get me Wrong but the good ones are few and far between.
I just don’t feel like it’s the same anymore. It’s just so degrading. I follow fitness pages that are supposed to be motivating but all I see are ass implants and giant close ups of butts covered in “sweat” aka glycerine and water sprayed on your butt to look like sweat.
So you eat healthy. Ok cool. I’m not going to treat you like an astronaut though.
The actual term fitness model has lost all meaning.
Its about wanting attention and being extremely narcissistic and selling yourself. Its about chicken and broccoli and “gains”…
I did that already. I did that for eight+ long years. I missed birthdays. I didn’t do festivals. I was busy. I missed weddings. I did it already bro.
When I wake up my first thought isn’t food anymore or to do morning cardio. It’s usually work and sometimes food.
I don’t have dreams about food (as often) I dream about Armin Van Buuren coming to South Africa again and then how he gives me free tickets to his show and we hang out.
I feel responsible for more chicken deaths than KFC.
I ate fish and broccoli FOR BREAKFAsT. A lot.
I hate fish. Forced myself.
I hadn’t had cake in what felt like years.
Then. I learned my body more and was able to eat a bit less crazy.
Then I studied IIFYM more.
Studied sports science. Still am.
I fucking AGED. I don’t know when it happened or who allowed this to happen but I woke up one day at 27 like..
Who the hell let this happen. I was 20 and then I blinked. And just like that my priorities changed. I’m focused on studying and adulting.
I chose a life I enjoy fully. I loved life then but priorities change.
I don’t feel like a fitness model anymore because I’m a fitness expert now. I truly feel I’ve mastered my balance and I’m not actively shooting or competing but I could easily if I wanted to. And I’m going to soon.
Everyone is a fitness model now. I’m focused on being an awesome coach to people all over the world and learning more every day. How many likes or followers or “finding good lighting” and making my friends take pictures of me all day isn’t what I’m about and isn’t what I EVER was about.
So don’t call me a fitness model. That term has lost all meaning and quite frankly respect from me.
Do I regret it? Absolutely not.
Will I do it all again? Like compete?
Hell yeah. More than likely.
But for now… I’m just going to enjoy my training and eating healthy, and that’s that.
What does it mean to be body positive?
Someone said to me that body positivity is basically fat girls loving themselves and justifying their decision to be overweight. And I have also heard that because I have what most girls would consider a “perfect body” that it’s easy for me to be body positive.
Maybe for some. But definitely not for me.
But just because I have a “fit” body means I can’t be a body positive advocate?
Pardon my French but fuck that.
I have cellulite most of the time. In fact for me to lose it I have to train really hard for an extended period of time. And actually I’m quite naturally curvy. My natural shape is an hourglass. But, just because that’s what is in style now the Kim K body doesn’t mean I don’t struggle with body issues. Maybe I wanted to be a tall slim type or something else. YOU Don’t know.
I think every woman should love the body she has and be confident that it’s all considered beautiful. No matter what your body type you too can be a body positive advocate. Just because you’re incredibly muscular or thin and have what society deems a perfect body, you have the right to call yourself beautiful. Don’t be ashamed because you have a gorgeous body. AND…. Don’t be ashamed because you don’t feel like you have a perfect body. There’s no such thing as a perfect body and I think that’s what body positivity is about. There’s no such thing. We’re all beautiful to someone and we should all focus on being beautiful to ourselves. Be proud Of what you put IN or ON your body and take care of yourself.
I think THAT is what we should all aspire to!
I eat healthy most of the time and train at least 5 days a week. I still have cellulite and big thighs but guess what. I’m strong AF! For me to get to a photo shoot weight I will have to diet hard for four weeks. It’s hard and I get cranky but that’s what I’ll have to do. I don’t want to live that way so I don’t. I choose life, happiness and healthiness. It’s not healthy to be in a calorie deficit all the time. Nor do I think it’s healthy to track calories or macros all the time.
Live your life.
Treat your body right, and encourage others to do the same, and to do what’s best for them. Respect other people’s decisions and encourage each other to love themselves.
You don’t have to justify how you choose to live to anyone.
Body positivity crew HOLLA!
Sending positive vibes✌️
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Create a life with NO limits. 🚀
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Who you spend time with is who you become. And getting yourself in close proximity with people that are positive, people you admire, people who are succeeding, even if you have to work for someone for free, ask them to hang out on weekends, go for coffee and bounce ideas off of them, it is important to just get IN the environment and INVOLVED with people who are successful or people you admire.
Success to you may be different to others. I admire some women in my life because they are the most incredible mothers and wives, and that is something I admire. When I am at that place in my life, great mothers and nurturers are whom I will seek solace and advice from. Find these people you admire, and get involved! Speak to them on Facebook, let them KNOW that they inspire you or motivate you. Their habits, their outlook on life, it will alI rub off on you… you will begin to think like they think and you will start see where the awesome opportunities for positive change are in your own life are.
You don’t like your friends and you don’t think they are your TRUE friends…why are they still in your life? Your managers? Boss? Co-workers? Don’t like them either? Well then, do you really expect your life and career to be any different from doing the same thing and being in the same situations? You keep messing with boring, unmotivated, negative, evil, and dysfunctional people and expecting positive results. We all know the definition of insanity, don’t we? Doing the same thing the same way repeatedly and expecting different results…? Well.
We have been raised in a generation of people who come up with EVERY EXCUSE in the book for EVERY single thing that is going wrong in their life. Excuses, to be honest, only sound legit or valid to the person making them up.
For me, life is a continuous, learning journey full of highs, lows and in-betweens. I often find myself asking “Who am I becoming?” When we spend large amounts of time with people (or things, or ideas), we should wonder about who we are becoming in this process. For me, it’s important to grow, to learn, to be kind, to be more compassionate. My fitness/health, my career, my clients, my personal relationships, and my spiritual relationship with God, are what is most important to me. It is necessary to find people who think the same way YOU do.
Look around the room when you are out on weekends with your friends, or who you hang out with the most. With who you converse with the most. If you are the smartest one in the room, you are in the WRONG room.
If nothing around you changes, change the things that are AROUND YOU.
Sending positive vibes✌️
🦄I encourage you to create your best life through food, fitness and fun adventures!
Create a life with NO limits. 🚀
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