(Written in 2017)
Women’s day is coming up!
YAY! The amount of incredible women I have had the pleasure to know and love, is ASTOUNDING. While we do have a long way to go, I think it’s so wonderful how we live in a world that women can be fierce, strong, power lift, run companies and countries, and I know with my whole soul that women are the future. Our power is in our diverse emotions and in how we handle situations with sympathy and empathy, things that used to be held against us are our strengths. We are mothers, sisters, daughters, friends, godmothers and aunties. We are powerful. And for as long as I can remember I have always been drawn to incredible women and somehow it became my career to encourage women to fall in love with themselves and there is no job I would rather have. Yeah okay maybe it would be cool to be a millionaire but maybe one day. In the interim, I am so blessed to have come across so many incredible souls, so many wonderful women who not only helped me see my true potential and to live my truth, but it becomes a ripple effect felt around the .
To every woman I have ever had the immense pleasure of meeting and knowing, thank you. You are amazing. I am so lucky to know so many boss babes who have shaped me to be the woman I am today. To say that I have been blessed with these relationships is a serious understatement. I am who I am, because of you. I am here and flourishing because of your love and support. I feel happiness, contentment and unconditionally loved and indestructible because of you. I love you, I miss you, and I am beyond thankful for every text, voice note, lesson, encouragement, favour, every tear and I am thankful every day for who you are and everything you are.
You have taught me more than you will ever know. Thank you for believing in me when I didn’t.
I was fortunate to be born in a family with very strong and independent women. My grandmother, who was born in 1925, in Portugal, dated a black man (which was then very scandalous), and later went through a divorce, and at 65 moved to Canada to start a new life, with her daughter and grand children. She was a chef, and had the best laugh. She always encouraged me to wear mini skirts and show off my body, but also taught me that I am not a force to be messed with. She taught me how to cook and that it’s okay to love your body and how you look. That you can also be a masterpiece and a work in progress at the same time.
My mother, who is an only child, moved to Canada in her 20s for a better life, with nothing, and worked her way up to what she and my dad have now. She worked 3 jobs, raising four kids with her mother while my dad was in and out of the city traveling for work. My mom cleaned up after us, gave us a great education, loved us unconditionally, and did absolutely everything for us while we were growing up. She would often stay up all night with me because I would cram for an exam the night before, in pure procrastination style, and in university would stay up weekly and help me. She taught me what hard work means, and how to survive on very little sleep. She taught me how to be a good friend, a hard worker, and a good wife. But most importantly, she and my grandmother taught me how to be a good woman and what that means is different to everyone.
Here is what it means for me.
I think every woman had the right to choose her career. Be it a stay at home wife or the Prime Minister, she should have the right and feel that should she want to do those things, she can without judgement or discrimination because she’s a woman. I think being a good woman means loving yourself in all of your forms, and loving your body and your mind and knowing and loving its full potential. I think being a good woman is sometimes being vulnerable and owning who you are, including the not so great bits. It’s standing in your power and encouraging others to do the same.
I am so proud to be a part of a generation that fights for equality, to end body shaming, that fights for female empowerment, that can elect women into powerful positions, a generation that fights for what it believes in. There is room at the top for all of us, we ARE the top. Thank you to all the influential women in history who fought for our right to wear bikinis, or burkas, to vote, to an education, to choose our own religion, to be gay, to be CEO’s, to have a voice. And thank you to the women of today and the future, who are fighting for the women in the world who don’t have this privelige. May we never stop fighting for each other, may we never stop loving each other. It starts with you. Start by realizing your own power, by loving yourself and the wonder and power that is YOU, and then help others see that in themselves. You don’t inspire others by showing how amazing you are. You show them by showing them how amazing THEY are.
And YOU, my friend,
Happy women’s day, you GORGEOUS THING YOU!
“Scream so that one day a hundred years from now, another sister will not have to dry her tears wondering where in history she lost her voice”. – jasmin kaur.